My mama is a woman of dignity. She does right, even when it practically kills her. She puts everyone on this planet above herself. She loves people, especially those hurting or in need…even if she thinks she doesn’t.
She has taught me so many life lessons with words & by her actions. With words (that were stored and later understood) she taught me:
“Life isn’t fair. Don’t expect it to be.”
“No one MAKES you do anything. You make your own choices.”
Along those lines: “You pay the consequences when YOUR choices aren’t good choices. Again, no one made you do anything.”
“You choose your mood.”
By her actions, she has taught me:
“When you’re knocked down, get back up.”
“Life won’t be easy, but smile & keep going.”
“Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s not possible. With hard work, anything’s possible.”
“A mother loves her child, even when they’re unloveable.”
My mom has been there for me my entire life. When I was knocked down (or self sabotaged), I would look up and see her there. Did I deserve it? Absolutely not. That’s just the kind of mom she is. Even when I didn’t believe in myself or self worth, she did.
Today for my 30 Days of Thanks, I’m thankful for my mom. The woman that has taught me what being a wife, mom, & friend is all about. Love you, Mama!
Ryan and I started the process of clearing out the clutter by adding to Deeda’s yard sale. Luckily, it didn’t take much work getting things together because we did most of the work last year. We thought we’d have a yard sale & then all of our weekends ended up being spoken for. So, it’s been packed away waiting for the chance to get out!
After handing over our yard sale items, we headed on our trip Labor Day weekend. As I stated in my last blog, Kit & Laura are moving. So, while we spent time with them, we saw them boxing and going through things. We left them to visit the Morris clan. If you’ve never been to the Morris home before, I will just tell you, Summer is VERY organized. She’s probably THE most organized person that I’ve ever met (Crysty is probably tied with her!). Follow with me…leave a place that they are going through things and getting rid of things they don’t need. Get to a place that is very organized…
We headed back to Kit and Laura’s. While they were going through things, Laura made the comment that they had been listening to an audiobook called It’s All Too Much: An Easy Plan for Living a Richer Life With Less Stuff by Peter Walsh. We knew of Peter Walsh from TLC’s Clean Sweep. We really liked his ideas! It’s common sense.
On the way home, we decided to buy the audiobook and listen to it. We had 6 hours to kill, so why not?! Let me just say, it got our behinds in gear!! Tuesday we got up & got the house in order. The funny thing is, it really didn’t take much time or effort! Ryan did most of the “heavy lifting” things and I did the sorting. I had been really dreading it before. What do we keep? What do we throw out? What if we move to a bigger place and could use this stuff? Answers to those questions became so easy after listening to the book. It’s just STUFF! It’s not worth keeping for a “one day” or “if”. It’s not a person, & it’s not the memory. It’s just stuff. Now, most of my house is clutter free. I have 2 closets and a drawer to go through. After that, we’re completely clutter free!! Thanks, Peter, for setting us straight!!
If you haven’t heard of Peter Walsh & enjoy audiobooks or reading, I highly encourage you to read this book! It will transform the way you think about your home & the things you put in it!
(Two posts in one day! Can you believe it?!)
So, today I’ve been thinking about everything I’m getting ready to go through. Basically, the shots I will be taking for the endometriosis will put me into a simulated menopause (symptoms and all!). Since I’ve never heard anyone talk of menopause fondly, I’m not too excited about it. Yesterday, I was in the “trying to keep my chin up” mode. Basically, I was FORCING my chin to stay up. Today…well, that’s a different story.
I have received many emails and phone calls from friends & family over the past 18 hours. For those of you who wrote an email or called, I am so grateful for you. Today is a much better day. You have given me the strength, confidence, and love that I have needed to face all of this. There are people who wake up to much worse situations than I’m waking up to. What I’m facing is more of an inconvenience than anything. And…with a fresh outlook, I am going to put all of my positive energy into attacking this disorder. If I can’t defeat it, hopefully I can at least keep it in check while the thoughts of babies dance in my head. When that day is gone, you better bet the fight is completely on!!
So, friends, thank you. Thank you for loving me. Thank you for praying for me. And, thank you for being such amazing people! I am so insanely blessed by you. God has used you today. Thank you for allowing yourself to be used for His purposes! Love you all!!!
Another thing that has kept a smile on my face…two phrases spoken by the little one in my life: “I wou (love) you, Mama.” and “I SOO HAPPY!” She melts my heart!
This blog has been roaming around in my mind for a while now. I haven’t really been sure how to word it, so I have just left it up there instead of putting it out for the world to read. My fear is that my blogger friends…or any of my friends for that matter…will think I am speaking of them. I’m not. I’m not quite sure what sparked my initial thought, but it has stuck with me. Anyway, please know that I am not speaking of any of you. :o) Here goes…
Our society has really been bothering me lately. Maybe it’s always been this way, I don’t know. I’ve always heard the phrase “keeping up with the Joneses”. So, I guess it has. It just seems like people our age are so quick to have the big house & expensive cars. When you look at the price of most new cars, they start at $20,000! Many people have 2 new cars & a nice new house. Now, I’m not judging those who can afford it because there are many who can afford it. But can they all REALLY afford it?! My fear is that we have grown up in nice houses thanks to the hard work & dedication of our parents. What we didn’t stop to think about is that they worked their tails off to get those places. They started small, sacrificed, & now are able to have the nice things. If that is how they got there, what makes me think I can get there at 28? It seems many believe it is their right or they deserve a nice car or house. Who said anything about that?! I don’t remember anyone telling me that when I got out on my own I would deserve a nice car. I’ve always been told that you have to work hard & earn it. Of course, God provides all. I do not dispute that.
I just fear that my generation has gotten quite greedy. It seems that banks, credit card companies, and others are capitalizing on that greed. I mean, any company who would send a pre-approved letter for a credit card & allow a high school student to get $30,000 in debt before she graduates is evil in my opinion! (No, I was not that student, I saw it on the news a few weeks ago.)
Ryan and I are trying very hard to not get roped into that greed or feeling of deserving things. Of course, we would love to be driving nice new cars & live in a nice house of our own, but what would that cost us? Right now…it would cost us everything. I know that is not what God intended. He did not intend for us to be so majorly in debt that we can’t sleep at night.
So, our plan is to go by our parents’ examples & the Bible. We will work & sacrifice as they did. We will try to teach our children the values that we were taught. If we are blessed by nice things, we will give praise to God for those things. We will not be guilted & pressured into doing things that society deems successful but in reality will suffocate our family. Living this way is not easy by any means. Our world says that if you don’t have those things, you aren’t a successful. Our job is to take off the glasses that our society puts on us & see what God intended & what He has provided. It isn’t an easy job, but we’re working on it.